But there is a fine line to be drawn with this. If your aim is to please everyone, to receive a standing ovation for everything you pen…well, you are not only being unrealistic, you are failing to see the good in having a few haters.
Yes, that’s right. It can be good to have haters in your life.
Now before you stop reading and delete your subscription (or decide that you don’t want to subscribe), hear me out. I promise there is something valuable in what I am saying.
Think about why you want to please everyone, why you want everyone to like you. At the root it is the fear of being rejected.
It is amazing what one rejection can do. You could receive ten compliments and just one unkind or uncomplimentary email or comment and suddenly you feel unworthy as a writer.
What’s the point of writing if your only goal is to win friends? Without haters you wouldn’t understand the pain and sweat of creation.
If you keep changing the course of your writing to meet this and that one’s needs, you are no longer genuine. Realness comes with a price. It means reaching some and rubbing others the wrong way.
The strongest writers are those that can press on, in spite of the haters. When you can keep doing what you love to do, regardless of how popular or unpopular you are…you have reached a level of maturity that will stand the test of time.
Haters come and haters go. But what remains forever is the impact you made on those that really mattered.
© 2012, Stephanie Romero